More Aged and more Beauty, It's secret!

Identical to the old skin from sagging, wrinkled, and no longer fresh. In other words, it is hard to look attractive as a young man. Well, says who?

According to psychologist Ruth Abraham, is a mistake to simply assume pretty synonymous with youth. Especially if it involves only a physical problem. As we get older, does not mean we do not look pretty anymore. Every age has its own beauty character.

After all, beauty is not only measured by physical, but also from the heart and mind. If we are already embracing the old term no longer pretty, it's good to follow the four following instructions. Thus, we can add to the savings we are now pretty well!

1. Note the entire face and body and contemplate what we see
According to Lora Park, PhD, assistant professor of psychology from the State University of New York at Buffalo, this could make us realize that we have their own characteristics and advantages.

2. Think positive and balanced
Vivian Diller, a psychologist from New York City, suggested that we should eliminate the perfectionist mindset. Therefore, this trend turned out to be a bad influence on himself.

3. Ignore any scorn, ridicule, or even joke about our physical appearance
For example, when a childhood first. According to Diller, physical appearance is only supporting, but it is not everything.

4. Stop gossiping about the vices or shortcomings of others
You know, this was a reciprocal effect. "Often gossip makes us worry that we are also rumored by others. As a result, this is why we get so trigger lack of confidence, "said Park.

real estate links

In order that a Investment Homes website will rank high in the search engine result pages for specific search term it has to have quality links pointing to it from other websites. What are quality links? Well, it means that these links should come from relevant authority websites and that the links will have the required phrase as anchor text (hyper text).

How to get links for real estate website?

Article marketing is one of the best free methods to build links from relevant web pages. This method is excellent for the long run but in order that all your work will be beneficial it has to be done correctly or you might be flagged as spammer by Google.

What do you get with article marketing?

You get exposure
You are strengthening your acknowledgment
You get valuable links to your website that will improve your search engines ranking (quality backlinks are the key ingredient to strong search engine rankings)
Other blogs and websites can reprint your articles including the links so your links popularity increases all the time in a viral manner.
It used to be that you write an article and submit it to as many article directories trying to gain as many links as possible from as many places on the web as possible. Times are changing and search engines tend to prefer quality over quantity and as times passes they know better and better how to differentiate quality from quantity. Search engines especially Google declared war on duplicated content (what is considered duplicate content is a subject for another article). As per my understanding for duplicated content is that there are some levels of duplicated content. The worst level is the same content on different pages of the same website. Less severe level is the same content on different websites, Google still shows the same article but usually it will be from the strongest sites and it seems that they disregard all the other weak article directories.

Because of the mentioned above it seems that submitting to as many as possible article directories is NOT the way anymore. When I submit articles I have two lists of article directories. One for the GENERAL strong article directories and another one is for article directories that SPECIALIZE in real estate. Relevancy is very important factor and if I had to choose between general and relevant I choose the latter.

Remember, link building is just a technique to reach your targeted audience. You want to fish where the fish are, right?

For better results it is good to make some rewriting to each article in the Title, first and last paragraph and the Resource box (change the anchor text)

The content of the article should be quality and informative that will add value to the reader. It can be tips on how to avoid common mistakes... or how to save money on a procedure... you get the idea

Very important: Until now you just set the domino infrastructure, now you have to make it work with a small effort but essential. You have to use web2.0 tools for that. It means that you have to bookmark (i.e. del.icio.us) the articles and use the social news network (i.e. digg) or any other web2.0 tools that the specific directory provides.

The best results of article marketing is when you submit articles on a constant pace. Put article submission in your weekly task list it is definitely worth it.

Importance of Early Childhood Education

     Education is an important asset for the advancement of the nation, therefore, every citizen should and must receive additional education, good early childhood education, elementary education, secondary education or higher. In the field of education a child from birth requires appropriate services in meeting the educational needs along with understanding of the characteristics of children according to the growth and development will greatly assist in customizing the learning process for children by age, needs and conditions of each, both intellectually, emotionally and social.

Before speaking further, what is early childhood education? Early childhood education (ECD) is the level of education prior to primary education, which is a development effort aimed bagianak from birth until the age of six years through the provision of educational stimulation to assist the growth and development of mind and body so that children have the readiness to enter school further, organized in formal, non-formal, and informal.
Why is early childhood education so important?

Based on the research results about 50% of adult intelligence kapabilitaas have occurred when the child was 4, 8 0% there has been a rapid development of the brain tissue when the child is 8 years old and peaked when the child was 18 years old, and after it was done though improved nutrition will have no effect on cognitive development.

Often played Gadgets Before Sleep? Beware of This!!

For those of you who are accustomed to using gadgets before bedtime should be wary! According to recent studies, using mobile phones and tablets with a screen backlight that lights up for two hours before bed can lead to sleep problems.
In the study, conducted by scientists from the Lighting Research Center (LRC) at Rensselaer Polytechnic Institute believes that light can cause suppression of melatonin.
Melatonin is a chemical that controls the body's natural clock in our - or is it "the giver message" - indicating information evenings throughout the body.
Because the teens are very susceptible to this problem, the scientists were put on special glasses to the youth participants to monitor the effects in this study.
"Our research shows that exposure to two hours for the backlight of the gadget can suppress melatonin about 22 percent," said Mariana Figueiro, a member of the research team, told DailyMail.co.uk.
Melatonin is a hormone produced by the pineal gland at night and in conditions of darkness. So, if you are exposed to light at night, especially the wavelength of light, it can slow down or even stop the production of melatonin, disrupt sleep.
Melatonin suppression by light at night may lead to disruption involved in circadian sleep disorders, increased risk for diabetes and obesity, as well as an increased risk of more serious diseases, such as breast cancer case for many years in a row and, as shift workers night.
"Stimulating the human circadian system to these levels can affect sleep in those who continue to use the gadget before going to bed," said Figueiro.
The research team then tested the effect of light on suppression of melatonin tablets backlight. To simulate the use of these gadgets, as many as 13 people use tablets and exposed to light for reading, playing games, and watching movies.
Total suppression of melatonin after 60 minutes was very similar to the estimated amount of time to spend an hour in the sun and still not significant. However, after two hours of exposure there was a significant emphasis.
"The development of television technology currently causing a bigger and brighter, including computer screens and mobile phones," said Brittany Wood, members of other researchers.
"To produce light, electronic devices must emit light with a wavelength, which makes it a potential source to disrupt or delay the onset of melatonin sleep at night, as well as reducing the duration of sleep," he added.
"This is very worrying in the population of young adults and teenagers, which currently tends to change like an owl,"

Beware of Game Addiction in Children Can Make Emotional

Almost all children and young people like online games. Site GirlsgoGames.com never released a report stating that approximately 50% of girls aged 8 to 12 years starting hooked on social games and entertainment on the internet.
Actually there is nothing wrong for children to play games still within reasonable limits. But if it is to disrupt their activities in the real world, they might already addicted. Just like drug addiction, gaming addiction can make the child's life a mess.
Symptoms of addiction to games such as the child begins to fall asleep in school and often dereliction of duty, the value drop, preferring to play the game instead of playing with friends, keep away from the social group, or feeling anxious and irritable when not playing games.
According to psychologist Novita Tandry seminar on Online Game in the Millennium Hotel on Wednesday (11/14/2012), anything can be done when the child is addicted to online games, including doing negative things. For the game, a child may miss school for example, diverting tuition, take a friend money, using credit cards parents secretly because he wanted to go up to the next level of the game and others.
Something much is not good. Children who are addicted to the game will be easy emotionally, behave more aggressive and irritable, especially if it's forced to release pleasure. They are so easy to say the words rough and dirty, especially if it fails to conquer the "opponent" on the screen, or a game halted in the middle of the road.
From the point of view of psychology, Novita said that the condition is often emotional and irritable is not good for children's development because children's emotional intelligence be trained. It is therefore very important role of parents in supervising children playing games. Parents should not be ignored just when his son play.
Instead, parents should try to follow the growing trend of the game and know the contents of the content. Provide clear guidance on the game, especially for small children who can not distinguish between good and what does not. If you need to make the rules at play.

Beware of Late Talking Children!!

Do not dismiss if your child does not have the ability to talk like children his age because he could be quite late talking. According to Expert Specialist Children's Neurosurgery Children's Hospital Bunda (RSAB) Harapan Kita dr. Anna Tjandrajani, SpA (K) late detection of the speech delay will affect the growth of children in the future.

"Often parents think that the child is just a late talking and dismissive when it affects the development of the child. The child can become a passive child," he said.

He explained that, in the development of the science of neurology, a child belonging to late to talk if delayed 3 months of his age.

According to him, one year olds can say one word as clear as "mama".
"But if the child has not been able to ramble up to the age of 1.5 years, the child may be too late to talk," he said.

He explains the development of speech children by age is as follows;

- Age 13-15 months was able to speak 4-7 words, and at least 20 percent of his speech can be understood by others
- Age 16-18 months has been able to say 10 words, and 25 percent of speech understood by others
- Age 19-21 months, can say 20 words, and 50 percent speak understandable to others, may designate parts of the body and called the three objects
- Age 22-24 months could say more than 50 words, 70 percent of the speech can be understood by others, may appoint and called 4 images

"If at the age of 4 years children have also have the ability to tell stories, so parents should take him to a speech therapist,"

How Bathing Baby: How Should Prepared? ?

Baby Bath Equipment Should You Prepare

1. Pillows and Towels

If you just want to wipe your baby, then the use of pillows and towels will greatly assist this process, especially the hand you have to constantly hold the baby. Put a pillow wrapped in a towel and lay your baby on it. Do not forget, you should do this activity in a closed room, so that your baby is not cold.

2. Baby bath

Before you take your baby for a bath, make sure the baby shower are available and ready to use. You can line the bottom with a towel or sponge, so your baby feel more comfortable and safe. The use of the tub is usually for babies who are rather large.

3. Cloth washcloths

You will also need a cloth washcloth or sponge bath for the baby. Begin stripped one by one so it is not cold. Rinse the body starting from the neck down.

4. Cotton balls

Cotton balls are very helpful to clean the baby's eyes. Begin cleaning from the inside of his eyes toward the outside. Use a different cotton ball for each eye.

5. Towel hat

Towel dry the cap is good for your baby after a bath. Remember, do not rub the towel into the body, because then the skin may blister. Simply pat it dry.

6. Diaper clean

Before you clothe him, provide him first clean diaper.

7. Alcohol

If your baby's umbilical cord still attached, then you can use alcohol to keep it clean. However, you should first check with your doctor whether or not the use of alcohol is permitted for your baby.

8. Baby Skin Products

A lot of controversy surrounding the use of lotion and powder for babies. What is clear, avoid the use of products that use perfume, and avoid the use of talc powder, because it can cause respiratory problems in your baby.

9. Baby soap

The use of soap, can actually disrupt your baby's body pH stability. In fact, the pH of the body can help protect against a variety of germs. Well, any baby soap you choose, try to choose products that are fragrance-free and hypoallergenic. The use of soap was not necessary every day ... just 1 time every week or even every two weeks, until your baby grows bigger and interact with more dirt.

10. Baby Shampoo

Choose which does not make eyes sore. Use shampoo 1 or 2 times every week. The trick, drop 2 or 3 drops of shampoo on your baby's head and rub your scalp slowly.

11. Nail clippers

After his bath, nails become very soft. So this is a good time for after finish nails.

12. Soft brush

To clean the crust or dirt on the skin of your baby's head, use a very fine brush. You can do it every day, after a shower.

Benefits Learn to Read From Early

how to learn to read before entering elementary school (SD) could affect the child's reading achievement in the future? Dolores Durkin is the first researcher who studied the issue in 1958-1964, and held a variety of studies to examine. What conclusions can be drawn from the study for 6 years?

    1. Children who can read early on turned out to always be ahead of the reading child is late, up to the level of Junior High School (SMP).
    2. Early reading ability was not related to IQ, but is associated with home and family atmosphere. Children who can read early on had appeared from families who have attention and extra effort in helping them learn to read.
    3. Early reading skills is also not related to socio-economic conditions. Children who can read early on turned out to have parents who are willing to set aside time for reading with her son, although socio-economic background they vary.

Durkin also found that children who start learning to read from the age of 3-4 years, it has always outperformed other children who start learning to read at the age of 5-6 years. They could even continue to excel to the time span of 8 years.

Baby Clothes - Ensure Safe from Hazardous Materials

Who does not want to buy baby clothes at bargain prices? Even babies are not just clothes, if we could all purposes can be bought at a bargain price, right? But we also have to remember that baby clothes are cheap, safe and comfortable is not necessarily used by your baby ...
You already know that your baby has a skin that is very sensitive. He is easy to absorb substances that are in direct contact with the skin. Well, we can imagine how if harmful substances every day that clung to the body of your baby, because she was wearing clothes that are not safe, either from textiles, and dyes
Another way the entry of harmful substances into the baby's body is through the mouth and nose. Often babies will mengemut end clothes. If the dress materials containing hazardous substances, the substance can be swallowed by it, and a negative impact on health. Another scenario is the inhalation of these substances into the respiratory organs. Although this process does not directly cause a negative reaction, but if persistent, can lead to a negative mainstreaming health in the future.
There are a few things you should look for when choosing and buying clothes for your baby:Dyes Textile Materials and Substances
Make sure the materials you buy baby clothes free of ingredients that have been pointed out by the law can lead to cancer. These are usually found in textile dyes. There are also substances that may still be contained in the fabric, but the amount is set by statute, such as formaldehyde, fabric softeners, heavy metals, or pentaklorfenol. Formaldehyde is too much in the fabric can cause flammable baby clothing.
There are also substances which although not regulated by law, but should be avoided, such as pesticides, dyes cause allergy, or organic tin compounds.
Other factors that should also be a consideration is the level kelunturan clothing color and pH, so it does not irritate your baby's skin.Texture
The texture of baby clothes and pants that are too rough can cause friction with the baby's skin, so eventually cause skin irritation. Choose tesktus soft and smooth for your babyAccessories
You may be trying to make your baby look cute, cute and pretty .. but do not choose clothes that use excessive accessories. Most accessories are not actually safe for your baby. For example, baby clothes using rope, can pose a hazard if the child is entangled. Be careful also with colorful ribbons that can make your child choking.
Be careful also with a zipper, because it can hurt your baby.Comfort
Make sure your child dresses and pants absorb sweat, have good air circulation, not too narrow and tight, and adjusted to the weather. Put the clothes made of warm when the weather is cool, and clothes made from thinner when the weather is hot. Sometimes stitches are not neat can also cause discomfort for your baby ...
Well, if this is how, a lot of research you have to do to distinguish between safe and comfortable clothing with a not ya? Continue, when buying clothes? :)
When we 'play' to the source of one of Europe's independent agency that issued the security certificate textiles for baby clothes, it turns out they have a standard to about 200-an agent of textile and dye! What you should print this list and take it everywhere? If yes, where there is a bay clothing manufacturer that lists all of these substances in their product description ...

5 things that are not liked by the baby

1. face stiff

Babies know, really, the intention of a person with careful attention to expression. That is why he does not like someone who faced stiff or flat expression. Also, he saw someone wearing a mask, for example, he could be surprised or even more confused.

2. The sound is very loud and in

High-pitched sounds such as voice or singing lullabies mama-preferred child. So, uncle or uncle child need not feel guilty if his nephew burst into tears when accosted. He did take a while to adapt to an unfamiliar sound is familiar.

3. sourness

Until he was eating solid food, the baby only knows the sweet taste of amniotic fluid, breast milk, or formula. No wonder if the baby will refuse food or drink that tasted sour when you offer.

4. bright light

Still love the shiny toys and mirror, your baby's eyes can not optimally use-especially in sunlight or even a flashlight in the doctor's son. So, ask your pediatrician for meredupkannya ya, Ma, when examining the child.

5. overstimulation

The baby is most like to be entertained. The problem is, too many people who download peekaboo simultaneously will make the child should feel upset, not happy. Also, make sure he had plenty of quiet time alone as well.

SEO - Bad Links Are Worse Than No Links

If you own a business and have a webpage, you have no doubt received emails from companies promising thousands of links to your site that will guarantee you a spot on page one of any online search. Hopefully, you have relegated those emails to your spam folder because that's where they belong. Google is taking a hard line on unauthoritative links, crushing the ranking of some websites along the way. Here are some things Google is looking for and what you can do to avoid problems with your site.
Paid Links - If you're buy blog links, HALT! STOP! CEASE! Google will punish you. Google is on the lookout for artificial and unnatural site links that are intended to effect page rank. If you suspect you may have been penalized for links you paid for, delink from them as quickly as possible. Go back as far as you need to go back. If you've been buy blog links for 3 years, go back 3 years and delete all of them.

If you suspect you have links to your site that you don't know about, use a tool such as SEOmoz to check your backlinks. There have been occasions when a website has bought links to a competitor's site, and then reported the site to Google. Using SEOmoz will allow you to see what sites are linking to you. If you find a site that should not be linking to you, contact them and demand to be delinked. If your demand goes unheeded, have the rel="no follow" attribute added to them.
Once you have cleaned up your site, don't wait out the penalty. It may take longer than you think. Instead, write to Google outlining the steps you took to clean up your site, and ask for reconsideration.
Widget Bait - Have you ever seen an advertisement asking you to sign up for a website counter? You think it's pretty cool, and it's free, so you sign up. There's a good chance that there are hidden links in that widget. In fact, there is a website counter out there with links to a pay day loan outfit. The website owners who posted the widget didn't even know there were links associated with it. This is an example of widget bait. If you decide to insert a third party widgets into your site make sure that all the links are clickable, readily viewable, and relevant to your site.
A widget that has links in plain site but is not relevant to your site will not buy you a lot of love from Google. Google is looking for links that conform and are relevant to the editorial content of the site it is linking to. If the link within the widget goes to a totally unrelated site, Google will not look upon it as being authoritative and will not give you the editorial vote you need for a higher page rank.

Parenting Role In Shaping Character Kids

Successfully educate children well are the dream of all teachers and parents. Every teacher and parent would want their children to be successful and happy, but if in fact that easy? The majority of parents had experienced difficulties in educating their beloved baby
The teachers and parents, let me ask you ... Have we thought that the negative program (maybe) we inadvertently implanted into the subconscious mind of our children, will continue to dominate and control her life - making a mess in the future? If you want to honestly evaluate yourself, it could be all of us, including me as a parent has and is doing this to our children.
Citing what is disclosed Dorothy Law Nollte:
If the child is raised with reproach, he learned cussing
If the child is raised with hostility, He learns to fight
If children grew up with ridicule, He learns inferiority
If the child was raised with contempt, then he learns regret
If the child is raised with tolerance, He learns to control herself
If the child is raised with motivation, then he learns confidence
If the child is raised with tenderness, he learned to appreciate
If a child is brought up with a sense of security, so he learned to trust
If children are raised with the support, so he learned to appreciate yourself
If children are raised with love and friendship, he learns to find love in her life
Honestly since I got married, I was very lucky to have a wife who is concerned with the development of our children. We remind each other greeting that comes out of our mouths and our attitudes and behaviors are "dangerous" for our children. We are well aware of the child does not need to be taught anything through communication, just look at it then it has been studied and recorded in his brain. We are maintaining it.
As the title above parenting is character education. For us parents, the character of what we want to instill in our children? Give an example of it in the attitudes and actions as well as words. Then the child will easily mencontohnya and store it in memory and the subconscious will be issued back when "no trigger". That? When we give an example of respect and affection for our spouses, our children are now married someday he will imitate the behavior of her parents to the spouse.
Now this is very applicable once aphorism "the fruit does not fall far from the tree" and it's how I feel right now a lot of my clients who feel that life is the result of a "copy" of his parents. If her parents give a good effect is not a problem, but if the household is a mess as his parents then this is a disaster. Why is this happening? Well, I guess you already know the answer right?
Be a role model for our beloved baby, the first and initially the child will always learn from its immediate environment, namely the elderly. They absorb information with the best of their five senses. Not just the words but the attitude of the parents and their parents' behavior will absorb too, even you are not aware of.
If our parents, want to know how much value you as a parent to educate the child, there is an easy way to know. The first report cards of our children at school (kindergarten or play group), it is our own report cards parents, not the child. You can draw from these results, how the quality of the "product" (read: kids) you. Well that was the beginning of the current report cards 3-5 years you have a family and educate children. But if you want to know the end result look at your child's life when she is in real life. Look at the interaction, how to speak and behave and if we parents are more observant and wise look at finances. The better your child's financial condition is directly proportional to your child's character owned (kosher of course).

Character Education Early children

6 Feature Character Troubled Children

"Is it possible to know and ascertain whether a child is troubled, within 5-10 minutes the first time we see him?" The answer is "probably" and "definitely". That's a question I often ask the participants or the parents who are eager to learn and peppering me with questions about his son.
I will discuss these secrets now, secrets that I often use to analyze a child. Is he troubled, even after carefully studying us can predict the future of a child. Wow, this is not a sale promise quiet, but this is uncertain. From the results of handling a variety of cases of families and individuals then formed an accurate pattern in each individual. Most of my clients if they have a problem, most of the problem and most of the problem comes from 2 things. It is also a secret (Secret of my therapy room), but I'll dismantle exhausted.

Well 2 things come from:

    * Families (families that make up the problem by accident).
    * The problem comes from the age of 7 years and under.

Family, is an important factor in a child's education. The character of a child from the family. Where most up to age 18 years of children 60-80% companies spent with family. Humans different from animals (sorry) Of a newborn kitten, could live if separated from the mother, and many other animals which have similar capabilities. Humans can not, until the age of 18 still need their parents, and warmth in the family. Success of a human being can not be separated from the "warmth in the family". It would be a lot of things that will be removed from each year of human life and needs and how to meet those needs, especially the emotional aspect. I'm not going to continue, we will discuss then on the other, we now know the way back to the characteristics of a problem child.
Aged 7 years and under? What's going on at this age? At this time the majority (85%) lies the origin of the problem or problems / obstacles created man. Fancy term Mental Block. Characters hamper achieving our personal goals. And usually will be felt at the age of 22 years and above. Woo ... ? Yes Mental Block as programs that seemed to be prepared (due to ignorance and accidentally and our parents) to inhibit various aspects of our lives. Aspects that can be a career (rich fear, fear of high office) health (body fat, allergies) Relationship (not easy to match with your partner / friend, paranoid) and other things, and many more.

What's up with 7 years and under and around the first 7 years of human life? Let me explain, at this time we need, basic emotional needs that must be met to remember MUST be met. If at this time and are not met by then, there will be self-Mental Block at the child. This is where the origin of the Mental Block formed. Because unmet basic needs required a human emotion. The need for what is needed at that age kids? So consequences (in adulthood the child) if the requirements are not met.

There are three requirements that must be met in children aged 0-7 years and even more, it is the key to character education, so that the character of our children can grow and develop optimally. Besides these three things is the origin of Mental Block that often occur or be very disturbing when the child is an adult. That is:
1. The need for security2. The need to control3. The need to be acceptedThree basic emotional needs must be met for the child we become a reliable and strong character to face life. It will be very long at all when described, well considering we discuss traits - traits problem child then we will go back to the topic.
Actually there are six traits of character a troubled child, we see enough of his behavior that appears then, we've been able to make early detection of the "great disaster" that will come later in life (read: more mature) and as soon as possible can make improvements.

These character traits are:

1. Unruly and to work withIt seems that most children will rebel, will own way, began to organize not want this and that. at this stage children are eager to take control. From there "uprising" from within him. Things we can do is understand it and we should respond with a calm emotional state.Remember the basic human needs? Three things I have mentioned above, now it is being experienced by the child needs. We can only direct and supervise carefully.
2. Less open to the ParentsWhen parents ask "How was school?" Son replied "fine", replied with a lazy, yet strangely at her she is so open. Strange is not it? This is a hallmark to 2, now at this point to say a parent figure replaced with others (friends or chairman of the alley, boyfriend, etc.). When this happens we as parents should be introspective and began to change their approach.
3. Responding to NegativeWhen children begin to frequently commented "though he wrote it ugly", a sign of self-esteem children were injured. Low self-esteem, one way to rise to a higher level is to find a foothold, the same time you have a low self esteem then the easiest way to raise our self-esteem is by criticizing others. And the child was trained to do that, be careful of this. Self-esteem is the key to success in future children.
4. Withdraw themselves
When children get used to and often Alone, preoccupied with her world himself, he does not want others to know about him (pull away). In this condition we as parents should take immediate measures a different approach. Every human being wants to be understood, how to understand the condition of a child? Back to the 3 things I mentioned. In this condition the child usually feels like to be accepted for what it is, understandably -to understand and deep.
5. Rejecting realityEver heard the quote like "I am not a smart man, I was stupid," "I can guns, I'm stupid". This is almost equal to the number 4, which is the case of self-esteem. And usually the case (denial) come from the wrong discipline. Example: "wrote that much why not, the mothers have given repeated instances".
6. Being a comedianAn incident at school when her friends laughed because of his behavior and the child is happy. If this occasionally may not matter, but if he repeatedly does not want to go back to my seat and looking for an opportunity to seek recognition and acceptance from his friends then we as parents please alert. Because children do not get a sense of welcome home, where are the parents? 

The Importance of Understanding the Emotional Needs Children

we have learned that children and adolescents are more controlled by their emotions rather than rational and logical thinking. Emotions may explain why children and adolescents behave that way, including the self-destructive behavior. So if we want to motivate them, we should first understand the emotions that control them and use them to guide the behavior and thinking more deceptive.

Here is the third child's emotional needs:

1. The need to feel SAFE

One of the strongest needs required soerang child is feeling safe. Safe in themselves and their environment. Teenagers seek security by joining with a group of "gang" or group of their peers, engage social order among them, and imitate his behavior.

A psychologist Dr. Gary Chapman, in his "five languages ​​of love" to say we all have a psychological love tank to be filled, more precisely if the child then the parents should fill. Children love tank is full then he would like to himself, quiet and felt safe. This can be interpreted as a happy child and had "inner" motivation.

Do we need to learn and know the love tank? It is necessary, I often recommend the teachers and parents to learn the language of love and find their son, herself and her partner. This I will discuss in the next article).

For example, motivated by the love of a mother scolding her son who was playing computer. "stop played computer and learn now" then what is there to mind the child? Maybe "Hmpf ... She did not love me, and want to control me and preoccupation" Well, son take it as a negative thing, communication is usually destroys the love at the root of the problems parents and children and teachers.

 "Loved the child is not the same as the child feel loved"

What causes the need for security is not met?• Comparing children with relatives or othersWhen we say "why can not you keep the room as your sister", "why can not you write neatly Rudi". Will grow up feeling rejected, not accepted, they will think "daddy / mommy is happier with ..." it fosters an attitude of love with himself and wanted to be someone else. They feel safe to be someone else, not to feel safe and comfortable being herself.
• Criticize and fault findingWhen we say: "you little fool, what's wrong with you? Why can not you do anything right? "Certainly, will lead to feelings of resentment, no sense of safety within the home (if this happens often at home).
• Physical violence and verbalI think no need to explain anymore, it's been a lot of us have encountered in newspapers and on television news, and the dangers or consequences too often we encounter in the media. If there is no security in the home, then the child will seek shelter to meet their security in all the wrong places. And the kids will do anything to get this security, seeking attention in the wrong way.

2. The need for recognition (feeling important) and accepted or loved

Rarely do parents make their children feel important and recognized at home. Instead many parents who make their children feel small and insignificant with the threat: "better do your homework now, or ..."
What is in the mind of the child if treated like that? We parents would be happy if kids do the things we command, but there are those young minds are lost by doing what they're told parents that way. So many children who delayed or did not do what was assigned parents (even though the threat) to meet the emotional needs for recognition.
A stern warning to parents: If your child does not feel loved and accepted by their parents, they will be compelled to look in all the wrong places.
The desire of a child to be recognized and to be loved is so strong, that they will do anything to get it. If they do not get the recognition it the right way it will find the wrong way and the wrong place. This need has prompted some children and teens to use a tattoo, another child, joined the gang of bullies, with flashy colors dyed hair, acting like a clown and comedian. It is generally troublesome themselves, but for the sake of gaining recognition and acceptable (to get attention).
There are extreme cases on 16 April 2007, a student of the U.S. Virginia Tech, Cho Seng-hui. Shot and killed 32 students. What drives this behavior, so he did something so incredible crazy? He did just as it needs recognition and a sense of importance so great, but not fulfilled by those who ignored and insulted. It forced him out of the world of logic and claimed the lives of others as well as himself, in his mind he thinks it's better to die with the name of the living is not bad as anyone.

3. The need to control (feeling or desire for self-control)

As the growth of children, while search for identity and independence while learning to build from the parent. This process creates an emotional need to be free and independent.
So that's why kids do not want to be dictated to what to do. They are not "slang" to listen to parents. By listening to the advice of their parents as being treated like a child. This explains why the children listen to their friends and uncle or aunt (uncle or aunt) who was younger than his own parents.
Parents are smart, will not give up for this. How do I provide direction and that the child's parents want to hear? Use of communication that does not mean forcing a child to advice us. Make it as if they study and work hard for themselves and not for us. they will be more excited and motivated that way. And most importantly, our kids love the tank meets every day and make sure children are always full when I wake up wake up and before bed. That way the child knows who understand and love, and to whom he will come on when needed someone to listen, that we are his parents.
Take advantage of this information, recognize the emotional needs of our children. Be sensitive to where when children need acceptance, the need to control things, and need to be safe. Use words that are appropriate to meet those needs, the following tips and how to meet a child's basic emotional needs:
1. Sense of security:• Quiet safe with you dear papa, mama will accompany you, hey ... papa here will keep you dear
2. Sense of acceptance or a loved one:• Make a habit of looking into the eyes when talking to the child, make eye contact is flat or "eye love"• Tap the shoulder while talking or any part origin polite, to show that we are together and close to the child• Keep abreast (stand in line with the child or kneel)• Say: whatever happens papa / mama still love you, you're still champ papa / mama, papa  / mama you're the most beautiful
3. The need to control:• If possible, when you see your child needs to do something yourself then please allow• Actually it is a learning process for himself and his future will be very useful today• Price of the child will be higher, if we are diligent to give control to the child, because the child was able to operate without the help (of course, a safe activity at the discretion of the parent)• Take special time to move and control, and watched with affection, ie children aged 2-3 years'm eating alone, going to school alone, and others